Totally Coached, Inc.

Intrinsic Coaching® truly has changed my perspective of people and the world.

I really cannot thank you enough for what you are doing at Totally Coached, Inc.  Intrinsic Coaching® truly has changed my perspective of people and the world.  The way that I communicate with people is more healthy and effective.  I feel like I truly see and understand people in a way that most do not.  This shift affects every part of my life and even my business.  The way I teach and the programs we create are all influenced by the ideology and methodology of Intrinsic Coaching®.  I am truly grateful to be a part of the IC® movement.

- Charity N. Butler, CIC, Exceed Sports, LLC, Founder/Managing Member, Exceed Sports

The Intrinsic Coaching® methodology gives me a way of thinking that is expanding in me and becoming a part of my life.

I really appreciate what we’ve been learning in the Advanced Hours and have intentionally been making more room for the intrinsic in the world around me.  I am personally seeing that Intrinsic Coaching® is not really about ‘using’ or ‘doing’ the methodology.  It’s more than that.  It’s about activating my own best thinking, increasing my own understanding, my own awareness of the intrinsic and making that space available for people to find their best thinking because of it. 

I’m recognizing that the systemic and extrinsic are definitely there (and should be there), but that the intrinsic is weak and is allowed little room (if any) in conversations.  I am realizing that the more my awareness of the intrinsic increases, the more I’m choosing to work with I>E>S in my own thinking and then allowing it to come through to the person I’m talking with.  This has changed my thinking around what an Intrinsic Coaching® conversation is.  I am realizing that with Intrinsic Coaching® it’s never just a start and then a stop because the conversation is ending.  It’s more of a continuous process of being with the person that I’m talking with allowing the increased attention to the intrinsic, and supporting the continuing unfolding that will go on past the conversation. It’s a beautiful add-in to any conversation whether that be in a coaching session or in a general conversation.  I’ve enjoyed my heightened awareness and my broadening of looking at intrinsic as a way of thinking, a way of being, for myself.  As a result, I’m allowing the intrinsic to come in as much as possible whether it be in a personal situation, group facilitation, or a conversation with my child. 

Again, I’m enjoying this widening awareness, focusing more on I>E>S and working with that in totality.  The Intrinsic Coaching® methodology gives me an additional way of thinking and I’m appreciating how this is really expanding in me and becoming more a part of my own life. This is a privilege for me. Every conversation, every moment deepens my knowing, my awareness, my ability as an Intrinsic Coach® than what it was a moment before.  I’m seeing things that I haven’t seen before and really appreciating the growth process around me and within me.

Tertia Putter, Wellness Africa

 

Intrinsic Coaching® is a different way of thinking, a more choiceful way of thinking and a more mature way of thinking!

Intrinsic Coaching® really is a way of thinking (more than just a methodology).  You’ve got to change your way of thinking when working with people – especially if they see you as the “expert”.  It is not about you!  It is all about your (expert) ability to elicit the best way of thinking in the person coming to you.  Since learning the Intrinsic Coaching® methodology, I became more aware of the power of my own perceptions and how it used to get me side-tracked from finding what is really important to the other person.  What a relief to let go of yourself!  Now it is not MY responsibility to come up with the “solutions”, but it is really in the hands of the person looking for it.  Intrinsic Coaching® is a different way of thinking, a more choiceful way of thinking and a more mature way of thinking!  It’s choosing to regard people as capable, creative and complete, so that you can see more, work with more.  It’s the way you choose to see people first before you can really help them.  In this improvement of my own way of thinking I’ve experienced so much joy, so much satisfaction and working with people has become easier and easier.  Wow!!!

Jannie Putter, Wellness Africa

If we all had these core capabilities, imagine what could be in this world.

What I have now, and what I continue to hold onto, is the profound knowledge and awareness that I am exactly where I am supposed to be in this moment in time.  That all that needs to be done is to sit in these experiences, notice and learn.  That good and all of the potential is in the moment, ready to unfold, develop, and grow.

I have an appreciation of uniqueness that I didn’t have before - that interaction between a unique person and a unique moment in time that will never be again.  And that the intrinsic is wide, vast and unquantifiable.  And that this is where best thinking and value and resources reside.   And from these things that I know to be true stems the desire to seize the opportunity for continuous growing, flowing and expanding with no rush or compulsion to conclude. 

All of this with the goal of moving towards clarity – which in and of itself continues to unfold as I continue to ask myself:  what do I want right now in this unique moment?  This perspective provides me with patience, compassion and acceptance with regards to myself and others.  It provides me with “peace in the chaos.”

What I want is an understanding and a visceral awareness in all I have just described for individuals, families, friends, colleagues, communities, schools, businesses, leaders and governments.   If this were the foundation of what they do, the focus would be on goals, not problems; clarity, not strategy; expanding our thinking, not rushing to narrow it.

They would look inside problems, complaints, obstacles, conflicts, emotions, unanswered questions, and moments of decision making for the wanting they would know is there.  We would all have the opportunity to experience ourselves fully and give ourselves as developing, unfolding individuals.  The pressures and expectations of S >E>I that diminish who we are and what we can contribute would be transformed to the freedom and continuously unfolding goodness of I>E>S.

We would be confident that we were not seen by others merely as an idea of who they think we are or should be.  We would know that what we see is only what is merely apparent and we would consciously choose to work with the much more we know is there and we know is valuable, even though we will never see it all for ourselves.  And in so doing, a wide and expansive space would be created for our thinking, effort and engagement as our contributions to our own outcomes are maximized.

If we all had this knowledge and these core capabilities, then as we all set out to do what we do as individuals and as parts of things greater than ourselves, imagine what could be in this world.

As a result of being in this ICDS II, three new insights emerged for me, which I found helped me most grow as an Intrinsic Coach®.  First, is that the choice really is for me.  It allows me to continuously shift into the intrinsic – to make room for more than what I would otherwise see by quite effectively disabling what would otherwise be the habitual dominance of my systemic thinking.  I have a clear understanding of what it means, now, when we say that the choice is not a belief, but rather a skill.  As I noted in my first reflection, I have been focusing on how this choice first serves me by enabling me to achieve the good that I want from my supportive interaction and any interaction with someone.  I see how the choice, as a skill, is the true cornerstone of self-management.  It’s the only way to get to what is intrinsic.

I see the next significant leap in my learning as stemming from this first one; and that is the fact that I must first engage my own intrinsic thinking before I am ever able to support someone else in finding theirs.  This second insight is about the purpose of the pause for me.  It’s about acknowledging my first thought, but making room for the second thought – and by doing so creating the opportunity for my intrinsic thinking to emerge.  It’s about aligning my choices and actions as an Intrinsic Coach® with my better, more expansive second thought, which is the more valuable thinking that I want and now know how to achieve.  It’s about first achieving and maintaining I>E>S for myself so I can then support other people in experiencing the rich and expansive thinking of the intrinsic, for themselves.

Finally, this ICDS II has also expanded my awareness around the significance and importance of the I>E>S hierarchy as it relates to people>methodology.  The metaphor of the hammer and the nail resonated so clearly as I reflect on my angst about wording the question just right, making something happen in the conversation, and trying to get people to go somewhere.  This was letting my S>E thinking get the best of questions, so that questions intended to be intrinsically focused were not.

I realized that it’s not about the right way of saying something, but rather it’s about the process of thinking that produces what I say and, in turn, the thinking that it produces in the other person.  I understand that we don’t move someone forward; they move themselves forward and only when clarity emerges – the clarity that only they can see and will never be able to fully explain and that I would never have been able to help them achieve had I not first chosen the self-management that activates I>E>S in me. 

Not only do we not move people forward, we don’t move the conversation forward, either.  In fact, our job is to engage rich and new thinking – intrinsic thinking - by staying with the thinking a person is experiencing and expanding it, instead of taking that thinking somewhere else.  My goal as an Intrinsic Coach® is to help a person unleash their valuable new thinking as a unique individual in a unique moment in time.

As I reflect on my experiences as a coachee in this ICDS II, the fundamental truth of these lessons is borne out.  At the end of those ten minutes, I remember only the new thinking I experienced, the release from the S>E loop I had been in, and what was important to me.  This is what I was taking with me from the conversation.  I literally have no recollection of the questions my Intrinsic Coach® asked or whether or not I thought they were “good.” 

So in this Session Nine, two things capture nicely what I want for myself as an Intrinsic Coach® as I move ahead from exactly where I am:  Fear less and trust more; trust myself and trust the process.  I am confident that as my intrinsic awareness and skills grow and deepen, I can do both, whenever I wish, with a simple decision – the decision to make the choice. 

Randi Kant, MS, MPH, CHES, Certified Intrinsic Coach®
OMC 699 Intrinsic Coach® Development Series
Assignment # 6
4/26/11

I>E>S brings peace out of the chaos of life and the world

Intrinsic Coaching® and I>E>S brings peace out of the chaos of life and the  world. Through Intrinsic Coaching® I have learned to step back and see others as they are, not what I think that they are or should be. Intrinsic Coaching® has really helped me to be a kinder, more open person who can see more potential in myself and the people around me, than I have done before. I love asking people the wanting question because it is a question that most people have never been asked, but the answer for them, eventually emerges and brings such clarity. What a terrific gift!

Donna Henault, LCSW, IC®
Phoenix, AZ

After the ICDS II...I'm taking forward an incredible sense of compassion for people.

•I have a greater appreciation of where people are coming from and a greater appreciation for people, their thinking, and the unfolding.  I also have a greater ability to really meet people where they are at.

•Intrinsic Coaching® is really unique.  It gives time and space for people to be where they are at instead of trying to make something happen.  It works with the uniqueness of people and the uniqueness of moments.  I can really value that now and work with that now.

•I am much more aware of I>E>S and have much fuller understanding of it.  I>E>S really guides me and my thinking.

•As a result of this ICDS II, I am much more comfortable and much more skillful with the methodology.  I've experienced a shift in thinking where I can't go back, nor do I want to go back.

•I’ve grown so much more as a person through the ICDS II. I am able to see my own uniqueness and value through the Intrinsic Coaching®!  This translates into me being a better coach, a better parent, a better person.  I truly value the journey and the unfolding for myself and for others.  What I’m wanting for myself and people is full aliveness that I>E>S brings.

•Through this ICDS II experience, I am becoming more respectful and honoring the uniqueness of me!  Some of these more advanced learnings (process-vs-content; in-between) have been very valuable for me as well.  What I want for people is more opportunity to reach others through Intrinsic Coaching®.  I want clarity for others, best thinking for others, love for others.

•As a result of continuing my development as an IC®, when I look at people, no matter what they’re doing, all I see is love for each person.  I see all the differences, all the uniqueness, yet everyone is the same...valuable for who they are.  I can see the completeness of people.

•Everything is different now...my thinking, my experience and interactions with other people, and my experience and interactions with myself.  I’m taking forward an incredible sense of compassion for people.  ‘Your pain is my pain, your joy is my joy,’ is taking on a whole new meaning for me.  I can truly appreciate a person and where he is at and have a greater ability to be with a person in that moment.

•With the ICDS II, Intrinsic Coaching® is more effortless.  I’ve gained more comfort, understanding, and ability as an IC®.

•I’m embracing the continuation.  With this ICDS II, I’ve gone places that I didn’t think were possible.  My continued awareness, learning, and development have put me in a place of an ‘intrinsic walk’ where it’s always with me.  I always have I>E>S to guide me, my thinking and my choices. With my increased intrinsic capacity, I’m seeing more.  I>E>S makes life so much more peaceful.  It makes things so much better.  It’s a better way of living!

•It’s a continuing process and I like that.  There’s more excitement, more possibility, more unfolding with the intrinsic!

•How do we launch our kids into the world to be successful?  Intrinsic Coaching®!  Support them with the ability to find their best thinking in moments of choice.  What better way to prepare them for success!

•What I’m taking forward is an even bigger shift in the way I think about things, myself, people and life.

This group of IC® professionals recently completed the ICDS II led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Jodi Sivon.  Congratulations to all!

I am happy and inspired to be a human being.

•I'm the happiest I've been in a long time because I have a way to really engage my best thinking and that of others!  I'm living I>E>S! 

•I'm finding that where I am right now is the best place I can be!  It's all good. 

•The experience of the Advanced Hours has been a quantum leap for me. I'm understanding the IC® methodology and I>E>S so much more. I'm grateful, excited and inspired.

•I want to keep all that I've learned here going. I am so grateful for this experience. Valuing the uniqueness is absolutely beautiful. With IC® I can serve people to their highest good.

•As a result of this, I see so much more, everything is bigger. I've gained more experience, more understanding and more of an appreciation for I>E>S.

•IC® and these advanced hours have been a gift and a godsend to me!

•Wow! I'm happy and inspired to be a human being.

•Best thinking enriches our lives and the lives of those around us.

-These are experiences of people who continued their Intrinsic Coach® development and recently completed the Advanced Hours I led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Jodi Sivon.

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, I want important, new things for people.

•I want for people the clarity of what's important to them and a way to cut through problems and confusion that situations (and thinking) can bring. Intrinsic Coaching® can provide that missing piece to go right to what people really want and support them in moving forward in that.  We lose focus and don’t always get to that.

•I want for people an understanding that it’s their thinking that moves them forward, and that the things that they do are a result of their thinking.  I want for people the ability to engage their own best thinking.  I want for people the realization that they have what they need inside of themselves (in their own thinking), and to view themselves capable, creative, and complete.

•What I want for me personally and others is the experience and the gift of the intrinsic. That is where there is the freedom to explore our thinking and gain clarity around the things we're wanting. There are so many resources available within the intrinsic.

•What I’m really wanting for people is the clarity that will happen in learning what is important to them -- not us -- and the outcome that will happen naturally [because of this clarity].

•What I want for myself and others is “world” intrinsic thinking.  Just think how that would affect people -- maybe we would have peace.

-Collective sharings from a group of Intrinsic Coach® professionals who recently completed the ICDS.

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, I have a wonderful freedom...

•I have a better ability to listen and see more of the person rather than just my ideas of the person.

•I have a different title – It’s not “Ms. Fix it” anymore.  There is a wonderful freedom that I want to exercise, and skills to give that support the capability and awareness of other people; that they are capable, creative and complete and unique.  It’s a great thing.

•I have a different kind of listening.  I’m listening for what people really want from the conversation (and not my ideas of what they should want).

•I have the understanding of [best] thinking -- we don’t always get to that because we're so caught up with trying to make something happen.  I understand the thought process and the importance of giving time for that thinking.

• I have the ability to be a better listener, to be comfortable with the silence, and realize when I‘m talking to someone that they are thinking and to give them time for what they want to say.

•The biggest thing is the change from thinking “I should do that” or “you should do this”.  I pay attention to my internal dialogue, and do not tell people what to do.  The thinking needs to come from them.  After all, they are seeing much more than anything I am.

• A big part for me is the self management and to not focus on the merely apparent.  Even though I knew there was more, I used to get caught up in it, and let my thinking interfere.  Now the focus is on self management, and to let the person think and unfold.

•What I have is listening in a different and fuller way.

•I have the ability to listen without judgment or expecting anything.  I just let it happen.

•I’m aware of the opportunity to encourage best thinking for others and myself, as well as to constantly ask myself if I’m at my best level of thinking.  Is my best thinking guiding what I'm doing.

•I am really listening better so the not merely apparent can reveal itself. We can have short and productive sessions, and people can walk away with something meaningful to take with them.

•I’m taking away a whole different skill set to help people further develop themselves and I don't have the burden of fixing people.  They don't need to be fixed.  They need the opportunity to experience themselves and their thinking fully.

•What I’m taking away is the listening.  This is important to me along with the pauses not only for coaching but with family and friends.  I’m learning more when I listen, pause and get their best thinking.  They are capable, creative and complete.

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, I have an understanding of the inherent wisdom that exists in me and others.

•In the past I had information [expertise] but I didn’t have a way of really speaking to people.  Now I have a structure, a way of thinking, and ways to handle different types of situations. I have a way to allow people to have what they want and to have the ability to further themselves.  I have a way to develop the person where they are so they can move forward.

•I have an understanding of the intrinsic and the inherent wisdom that exists in me and in others.  I have a way to elicit best thinking (myself included).  I will be sure to allow all that I've learned with Intrinsic Coaching® to grow in my life so I can help others.

•What I have now is a lot of self management I wouldn’t have tapped into without this methodology. I also have a new way of looking at people and supporting them.  Intrinsic Coaching® is an empowering way of working with people and brings learning to both the coach and the client. 

•I have learned a lot in these past 12 weeks.  I acquired many new skills and knowledge.  I’ll definitely grow professionally because there will be the benefit of learning more from my clients because of applying what I've learned with Intrinsic Coaching®.

•I will chose to regard everyone as unique and capable, creative and complete.  Through that I will be able to guide people to give of themselves.  I will definitely not underestimate them.  With the knowledge they have, they will be able to acquire their goals and the things that are important to them.

•What I’m wanting is to continue to work in the intrinsic in my life, and in the inherent wisdom to benefit not only me, but the people around me. 

•What I want for people is that life giving process of Intrinsic Coaching®.  The moment becomes invaluable as you hear the shift in their voice as they gain clarity in their thinking or they say I didn’t know I could see or think of it in that way.  I want that for people, colleagues and myself as well.

•I am looking forward to the continuation, the unfolding, and allowing the methodology to become more integrated in me.  I’m looking forward to the outcomes in that development.

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!

Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has changed the way I think.

Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has changed the way I think.  I came into this wanting to make my coaching better and came out with something very different.  Not only do I have a way of coaching better, but I have a way of thinking better.  It's inspiring.  It's not about what structure I put into place for coaching.  It's about eliciting an individual's best thinking.  Intrinsic Coaching® has become a part of who I am, not just something I do.  I'm excited and inspired to continue moving forward in my life (not just in my coaching) with what I've learned with Intrinsic Coaching®.

Toni Best, DC
Wellness Evangelist
Worksite Wellness
Redmond, WA

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, I have a healthy, productive, concise way of working with people

•Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has been a big eye opener for me.  I've learned that I don't have to solve all of the problems and give my thinking all of the time and that's a relief.  Intrinsic Coaching® opens up more than what's merely apparent and is a healthy way of thinking.

•I'm pleased that I'm taking with me a healthy, productive, concise way of working with people.  I have a way of really supporting people in what they're wanting and a way of helping them think better.  I'm learning to value people and the kids that I teach for who they are and am regarding them as capable, creative and complete.  I'm giving them the opportunity to pause and find their best thinking.

•As a result of learning Intrinsic Coaching® I'm seeing so many opportunities both professionally and personally where this can make a tremendous difference.  It's really exciting to see the shift in thinking in myself, too.  I have a real shift in how I look at people and how I look at the world. 

•Intrinsic Coaching® has given me an enhanced awareness of each individual's uniqueness and has put a curb on me viewing people through my own filters and categories.  As I'm listening to people I'm being quiet, self-managing and really focusing on the individual and his thinking.  On a personal level, learning Intrinsic Coaching® has meant a lot.  I'm finding many more unexpected directions that are of so much value.

•I'm really working with people as individuals now (and not just the category and/or what other people have told me about them).  With Intrinsic Coaching® I'm finding people developing their own goals and moving forward in ways making sense to them.  It's been a very beneficial experience.

•I have developed an understanding of the difference between goals versus strategies and have a way of really working towards what is important to me.  This has been a very rich and valuable experience.  I'm looking forward to the unfolding that will continue...

•Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has changed the way I think.  I came into this wanting to make my coaching better and came out with something very different.  Not only do I have a way of coaching better, but I have a way of thinking better.  It's inspiring.  It's not about what structure I put into place for coaching.  It's about eliciting an individual's best thinking.  Intrinsic Coaching® has become a part of who I am, not just something I do.  I'm excited and inspired to continue moving forward in my life (not just in my coaching) with what I've learned with Intrinsic Coaching®.

•I have learned so much about myself in these past 12 weeks.  I've had the sense of the intrinsic before, but didn't know how to utilize it.  Because of what I've learned with Intrinsic Coaching® I have a way of building upon best thinking, intrinsic thinking, for both myself and others.  I've learned how to enrich my patients' lives with Intrinsic Coaching®. I'm also finding myself talking in a different way with my kids, family and friends and I'm so thankful for that.

•Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has been so fulfilling.  It's given me a better way of interacting with others.  It's relationship building, not at all limited to coaching or a specific role.  It's a mutually fulfilling interaction.  To me, Intrinsic Coaching® shines a light and provides a pathway to feeding one's soul in a way that is truly rich.

•Throughout this experience I've been learning about the complexity of people and learning more about myself, too.  Intrinsic Coaching® guides my thinking and enables me to work with what's not merely apparent.  It's been a very enriching experience!

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Jodi Sivon.  Congratulations to all!

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, I am a different and better person.

•I have a completely different outlook into how I approach people.  I listen more, say less and have an attitude that people have the answers.  I let it unfold instead of trying to make something happen.
 
•I have a quietness that allows me to really listen and let a person's thinking unfold.  I’m noticing when people are working with the intrinsic and the worth of being with them there.
 
•I’ve learned not to pay attention to what is merely apparent, and to look beyond to what the person is telling you and where they are right now.  
 
•I realize now that making the choice to regard people as capable, creative and complete is important and how this choice really helps people.
 
•I’m taking away an awareness of turning down internal dialogue.  I see myself with more patience, and I’m going into situations not trying to fix the problem, but handing it back to the coachee.  It is remarkable that I didn’t have this.  Before I was just going in, telling and handing out instructions.  Now, I’m a different kind of coach (a better coach) and I’m a different person (a better person) with my family.
 
•I have more self confidence in knowing that I’m capable, creative and complete, and in turn meeting and thinking of other people in the same way.  I’m allowing the listening to take place instead of trying to be a doer or a fixer of the problem.  I let them do the thinking and express what they want.  This is something I’ll take away forever.
 
•I have the ability to continually turn down my internal dialogue so I don’t rush in and fix someone.  Instead, I'm pausing, letting the coachee's thinking unfold unto what they are looking for.
 
•Knowing that I don’t have to carry the burden to solve all the problems and answer the questions is a big relief.  The person is the expert on themselves and only they can bring forward important learnings and thinking and have the ability to solve it.  I also have an understanding of the words growing and unfolding and really appreciate that.
 
•I have a new way of viewing things.  In not having to fix everything for everyone else, I feel more relaxed in my conversations and have a different internal dialogue.  I focus on what they are wanting.
 
•I'm taking with me the awareness that we all have the ability to think intrinsically.  I'm also focusing on letting things unfold instead of trying to make something happen.
 
•I have more patience in trying to let it unfold and letting other people provide the guidance for the conversation about their situation.
 
•I’m taking away the listening, and not chiming in and talking when someone is letting me know their story.  I’m paying attention to the unfolding.
 
•I think what I didn’t have before and want to continue to grow is “the wanting” question.  I hadn’t thought about this prior to the ICDS.  That certain questions can elicit certain responses, and can effect communication with the person you’re working with.  I will continue with this in my everyday life and not only with people I’m coaching.  
 
•I’m taking away the choice to regard people as capable, creative and complete.  When I did that [viewed people as capable, creative and complete]I realized people did have answers for themselves,  and I can be there to support them in that.
 
•On a personal level, I've realized what I’m wanting in many situations.  I’ve never really thought this way in the past and it has added quality and steps to my thinking.  I'm also seeing others being enlightened to their ability to find the answers.  It has opened an inner awareness.
 
•I have the ability to self manage. I used to be so reactive.  I’m more laid back professionally, at home or even driving.  I’ve gotten so much better at managing myself.
 
•I would like people to know someone heard them, didn’t judge them, but valued them in their experience, and that they took a step in their personal growth.
 
•I wish that people could have the knowledge that I have now, and for them to be able to use their intrinsic capabilities,and make the choice to regard people as capable, creative and complete.  I want for others to have that ability and all the value that comes with it as well.

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®...

•I am taking with me the power of asking people what THEY want and creating a space for their thinking to unfold.

•I'm listening with a spirit of service; not interrupting as much and letting others do their own thinking for themselves.

•I'm realizing that I don’t know everything there is to know, and that's okay, because it's what the person knows about himself that is important.  I'm also taking with me the importance of self-management so I can work with someone else's thinking rather than my own.

•I'm taking with me an ability to build capability in others rather than dependency.

•I'm valuing what's not merely apparent and have a way to work with what’s not merely apparent in order to support people (including myself) better.

•I'm wanting to pay it forward. I want others to regard people as capable, creative and complete.  I want it to spread where the whole world is able to elicit their best thinking – where Intrinsic Coaching® becomes a way of being/living!

•I'm able to create a space/pause for myself and others to find their best thinking and move forward as a result of that.

•I'm wanting others to experience the energy that comes from seeing a next step based on what they WANT rather than what they think they SHOULD do.

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Rosie Ward.  Congratulations to all!

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®...

•What I want for myself is to keep Intrinsic Coaching® in the forefront as a way to really appreciate where my coachees are coming from, and to really use this as a way to interact with people.  I want to appreciate that they have a whole scenario and thinking about themselves and their life that I don’t know about.  There is a whole world beyond what I’m seeing and to remember the not merely apparent.  When we focus on our own success and our own thinking, it’s hard to focus on our coachees and others.  
 
•What I'm wanting for people is for everyone to learn about capable, creative and complete, and learn the Intrinsic Coaching® methodology. It would make our world better.  It would allow people to conversate better with each other and would elicit best thinking.  People would ask, “Help me to think” versus “Tell me what to do.”
 
•What I’m wanting for people all around me is to be able to serve themselves better in their thinking and make changes in their health and in their life that they are wanting.  I'm wanting them to experience their potential and the results that come from finding their best thinking.  I think that’s where true change comes...it comes from them (and their thinking) instead of me telling them what to do.
 
• I want for people an awareness of the goal attainment power in each of them, the ability to ask questions that engage their best thinking, and to be able to access and harness the power that is unleashed with the intrinsic.  I want people to embrace the idea that there isn’t failure in anything tried only learning and to use those learnings moving forward to behavior changes.  People are so self critical with perfectionism.  The biggest barriers are themselves.  To impart this would be good for all.  Intrinsic Coaching® removes the barrier.
 
• I want to contiue to grow and use Intrinsic Coaching® and this way of thinking with clients, family, friends and myself as a way of thinking, goal setting and planning.  I want to allow the skills to become part of me.

• I am taking with me the importance of regarding people as capable, creative and complete and the knowledge that  people are capable of change, do have the potential and grow and change through out their lifetime.  As a result of learning Intrinsic Coaching® I have a different expectation of conversations.  [In the past] If people asked me for help, I was expecting to fix or give a solution.  Now this has changed.  Now I'm expecting to serve them through the intrinsic to find their own answers. 

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Certified Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®, Level II...

Below are some learnings that were shared by Intrinsic Coach® professionals after continuing their development in the ICDS II:

•The intrinsic…it’s the right thing to do!

•Intrinsic Coaching® and increased intrinsic capacity is a gift that I can keep giving!

•I’ve grown so much more as a person through the ICDS II.  I’m excited about being a part of the IC® community and look forward to what continues to unfold.  As a result of this experience, I see myself becoming more compassionate towards others and having an ability to truly meet them where they are at.  Learning this and continuing my development has really been a godsend to me.  IC® has been the missing link in my life and is making a profound difference for me and those around me.

•I’m really understanding and wanting to be an advocate for people’s best thinking, and more importantly be an advocate for my son and his best thinking.  In continuing my development through the ICDS II, I now have a way to talk with people so they can see more of themselves and more of the people around them and who they serve.  I’m really wanting a way to bring this to more physicians so they can really see the person and not just a ‘patient’.  Throughout all of this I've also been asking myself what I'm wanting and have been gaining clarity along the way.  As a result, things make more sense for me now and I'm experiencing full aliveness in my life.

•There's a quote, ‘Be the change that you want to see,’…I feel equipped to do that now with all that I've learned and experienced in the ICDS II.  Intrinsic Coaching® and intrinsic thinking is so vital and so important and very much needed in our world.  It’s loving, energetic, fun.  With all that I've learned in the ICDS II, I've grown tremendously as a person.  I’m a new and improved me.  IC® allows me to be me.  It’s almost like a dream come true.

•I’ve really enjoyed this experience and have learned so much!  It’s so rich and I’ve gotten so much from this experience.  Intrinsic Coaching® has given me a sense of direction for my life.

•Throughout this experience I’ve learned to let go and really trust the methodology and trust the process.  These two hours each week have been a center point and an anchor for me during the week and have kept me grounded during some difficult times.

•With this ICDS II, I’ve been developing myself as a person, asking myself what I’m wanting and getting away from others’ expectations.  I’m realizing I’m deserving of looking at what I’m wanting and seeing myself more fully than I ever have before.

•I’m taking with me the continuing.  I continue to be amazed at how much unfolding there is for each of us and how we can always learn, always grow, always develop.

•This experience has been tremendous.  The first ICDS just scratched the surface.  The ICDS II has opened up so much more for me in terms of my understanding, awareness, and skills and has given me an entirely different way of looking at people and looking at the world around me.  It’s given me hope and I want that for others.  IC® really is a movement.

•Learning IC® has been a real awakening.  It’s been a paradigm shift.  I have a desire to serve people and this is best served through IC®.

•With the ICDS II, I’ve gained the capabilities, knowledge and skills of Intrinsic Coaching® that I didn’t have before.  What I’ve gained isn’t just for me, but is for all of those people around me.  It’s creating a healthier me, a healthier family, a healthier community and a healthier world.

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®...

•I have a new perspective and thinking about coaching and how effective it can be to coach someone with this knowledge.  I have the ability to elicit best thinking for the goal and a healthy balance between I, E and S thinking to effectively reach the goal.
 
•I recognize everyone has their own thoughts (more than anything I can see or even know).  I'm learning more about people as they are answering the questions instead of assuming I know what the answers are.
 
•I have a new way of communicating with people and an appreciation of people as capable and wanting to succeed.
 
•I have a way to actualize the intrinsic.  I’ve always known there was another way, a better way [the intrinsic], but didn't know how to utilize it.  Now I have a way to bring forth the intrinsic and move from systemic thinking to the intrinsic.
 
•I'm able to recognize the difference between I, E and S thinking.  I'm choosing to recognize everyone as an individual and as capable, creative and complete.  I'm learning to disable the dominance of my own systemic thinking and am realizing that the coachee is the one that has the answers.
 
•I have a better ability to self-manage, a way to enhance my expertise and am making the choice to recognize someone as capable, creative and complete.
 
•I understand the meaning of intrinsic and how it is important to have this thinking in order to produce best thinking.  It is important to not value my information about what I know about the person, but instead value what the person knows in order to bring new information and really be creative in creating an outcome important to that person.
 
•I'm keeping in check my agenda and opinions and recognizing what the person is really trying to say.  I'm valuing their uniqueness, giving them time to develop their own thoughts, and not forcing my ideas on them.
 
•I'm realizing that no matter what my background, knowledge or experience, the person will have a much deeper and richer understanding of what they want than I ever will.
 
•I have a new awareness of the intrinsic, self- management, keeping internal dialogue in check, keeping the focus on the goal and on what is important to them [the person], and to help empower the desire of what they want.
 
•I'm seeing that client empowerment and self-determination can make a wonderful plan.
 
•I recognize that the person I’m speaking to knows their goal or solution, and by using intrinsic thinking I can clear the path for that.
 
•I have been given me a more solid way of tapping into my own intrinsic thinking on a better level, and to be able to respect and bring this out in myself and others.
 
•I'm appreciating the value of self- management.  People will get there if we get out of the way.
 
•I am more aware of keeping self- management in mind, to not stack up questions, and allow them [the coachee] to answer, and not contribute my own expertise or opinions.
 
This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!
 

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®...

•I have more of a focus and understanding of the intrinsic, and an actual process to actually utilize it.  It’s something that I’ll consider in my day to day experiences and will continue grow.
  
•I'm asking myself the “what are you wanting” question and am answering it a lot easier than when I first started. As a result, I'm finding better thinking.
 
•I’m taking with me more peace of mind in my communication.  I previously worked very hard in coaching.  Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has given me more peace of mind and the ability to engage people's thinking.  By making the choice to view people as capable, creative and complete, I don’t have to work so hard.
 
•It’s been a reinforcement about respect for the individual, seeing them as capable, creative and complete, and realizing the not merely apparent. While we’ve all known to treat people as individuals -- this has brought it back to the forefront and I don’t want to lose it.
 
•I have a larger appreciation of the completeness of every person including myself.
 
•I have a real awareness of the intrinsic and making sure that I have I, E, S thinking in balance.   Learning Intrinsic Coaching® has also helped me to be a better listener and thinker.
 
•I have a concrete framework in supporting people finding what's important to them; we don’t have to know it all; we don’t have to have all the answers.  I have this concrete framework and will continue to build on it.
 
•I have tools to better help people.  I have the building blocks to add “what are you wanting” and different perspective of asking questions to help people find their best thinking.
 
•I'm taking with me the confirmation that people are able to make their own decisions, have their own answers to their own best thinking.  It’s been a transition to move from helping to listening.  I’ve honed my listening skill over the past weeks.
 
•I definitely have learned to step back and be a better listener. I love the knowledge of the Intrinsic Coaching® methodology and of viewing people as capable, creative and complete, and letting them do the thinking instead of me.  I step back, listen and let them be their creative self.
 
•I'm creating opportunities for others to make choices for their lives.  It’s not what I want for them with my limited knowledge but what they want for themselves that is important.
 
•I’m taking away the ability to turn down my internal dialogue, and not try to fix people but let them help themselves.

This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Deborah Crespo.  Congratulations to all!
 

 

The Intrinsic Sound Effect...A Poem by a New Intrinsic Coach®

The Intrinsic Sound Effect

 

On the stage of all systemic connection takes a bow

Related to an image when we long to please the crowd

Our extrinsic keeps momentum, we develop to achieve

A feeling of satisfaction on behalf of what’s received

When our thinking is intrinsic the clearer we become

A rehearsal of this method echoes like a drum

An instrument who teaches makes us more aware

Joy can be effective passed on to those who care

In the nature of improvement new goals are what we seek

Our thoughts help us identify the composure of our peace

Once love within is captured truth is shared by man

The sound effect is lasting having faith to understand

A spirit is more creative tuned in to what belongs

Alive he is performing here to strum on something strong

The symbol of expression may tap on something good

And reach beyond a limit until the shift is understood

There is music in our silence as we play a song to learn

When ideas lead to better things what’s inside will take a turn

As the mind embraces freedom it refrains from asking why

If we pause to hear the answer what we’re wanting helps us fly

Into a world that’s different, a place that offers more

Inspired by desire one’s attention is secure

The lesson is for listening, the space is ours to find

In the rhythm of intrinsic true completion helps us shine

By:

Sheila Fair 

 

© 2010 Sheila Fair

 Intrinsic Coach®

Now that I'm an Intrinsic Coach®...

'I have learned how the wanting questions totally shift the conversation and those are the conversations I want to have more often. I want for others to find what they are wanting to be fully alive.'

'I will have the learning of how to honor others by making the choice to regard them as capable, creative and complete. I also learned to let go of my “perfectionism”. I want for others to find who they are and what they want in the moment; stay in the now and build from there.'

'Making the choice to regard others as capable, creative, and complete is what I will take with me. I realize I don’t have to solve their problems, just serve their thoughts. I want to help others see that they are capable, creative and complete; to believe in themselves and the intrinsic thinking they have.'

'I learned not to judge by appearances; that people truly are complete in and of themselves. I want for others to be able to stand tall and be confident in who they are. To know they are capable of creating the life they want.'

'I know how to let up on myself now. My thinking has shifted and I realize that “I’m enough too”. We don’t need all the answers because they are already there. I want for others to have the awareness of intrinsic capacity. I want to be of service to them so they can find that strength in themselves.'

'I learned that listening with a spirit of service is more powerful than giving any advice. Listening with a spirit of service will be with me now and forever. I want for others to know the resources and tools of Intrinsic Coaching®. To give them a little piece they can continue to develop and grow.'

'I am taking that I should never underestimate the power of simplicity. Throughout these 12 weeks I worked harder than I ever thought; and there was more there than I ever imagined. Removing judgments and details will be with me forever. I want for others to know that they have the capacity to find their best thinking and are able to make a difference.'

'I am holding on to the saying “people tolerate our ideas but act on their own”. I want for all the habit to first ask themselves “what am I wanting” and to explore the possibilities that open from there.'

'My focus shifted from traditional behavior change to self management of silence. I now choose to see people as capable, creative and complete and want to allow for the uniqueness of that individual. I want a world in which others don’t judge; instead, one where we allowed the extra time for people to be fully alive!'

'I have learned that everything I do is a choice. I have let go of resentments and “should” and “do’s”. I am finding clarity and direction in what I want. I want for others to see what it is they are wanting, to have clarity and to live intentionally.'

'I am holding on the thought of “seeing people as an acorn with a mighty oak tree inside”. I have peace in knowing that people grow in different ways and times, but they will all find their way with Intrinsic Coaching®. I want for others to believe in themselves; they can find and direct their own way.'

'I feel the “relief” to just be quiet and that I can work with others without having had to experience their situation. I want for others the confirmation of who they are in the moment and to know that sense of rightness that comes from the intrinsic.'

'I have learned to take the risk and let go; the coachee guides the conversation. I have also learned to value the silence and know there is great work in the pauses. I want others to have the comfort that comes in the intrinsic; to know we can move forward together by valuing their thinking most.'

'I will take myself out of my comfort zone (my training and expertise) and allow others to teach me how to “see through their eyes”. I want for others to know it isn’t what they will contribute to the world, but what would be lost without their gift to the world.'

'I have changed the way I talk with people in work and everyday! I am wanting to be fully alive and aware of “not merely apparent” and all that exists there. I want for others to see themselves and others as capable, creative and complete; to honor their uniqueness and singularity.'

'I have learned I can share the experience without telling others what to do. I know it isn’t about what’s important to me but what’s important to them; no more fixing. I want for others to experience the sense of knowing; to know they can trust me that I can help by not telling them what to do.'


This group of newly graduated Intrinsic Coach® professionals was led by Intrinsic Coach® Mentor Stephanie Downs.  Congratulations to all!