Totally Coached, Inc.

Intrinsic Coaching® truly has changed my perspective of people and the world.

I really cannot thank you enough for what you are doing at Totally Coached, Inc.  Intrinsic Coaching® truly has changed my perspective of people and the world.  The way that I communicate with people is more healthy and effective.  I feel like I truly see and understand people in a way that most do not.  This shift affects every part of my life and even my business.  The way I teach and the programs we create are all influenced by the ideology and methodology of Intrinsic Coaching®.  I am truly grateful to be a part of the IC® movement.

- Charity N. Butler, CIC, Exceed Sports, LLC, Founder/Managing Member, Exceed Sports

At first I was a skeptic

"Learning Intrinsic Coaching®, is so counter-intuitive that I was a total skeptic when I started, now I’m a believer! I have more of a relationship with my patients, it takes less time and it’s opening entirely new doors, even with patients that I’ve had for two years or more!"

~Tracey Sholtis, IC®, Clinical Services, American Health Care

MY EXPERIENCE AS A COACHEE

I will never forget one Intrinsic Coaching® session during an Advanced Hours class in 2007.

I asked to be coached about my elderly parents in particularly my mother and my Intrinsic Coach® asked what I wanted for my parents. I listed the typical things one would want for aging parents: a safe environment, reasonably good health, independence for as long as possible, etc., etc..  Then she asked me what those things would look like and I began by saying I thought they may be in need of Assisted Living and that they would be very resistive to that idea.  I thought this would be the path the coaching session would take when suddenly things changed.

My coach then asked me what I wanted for myself as far as my parents were concerned.  Well, the telephone went dead because I had no idea what I wanted for myself.  My coach allowed a long silence in which I began to think very differently.  I finally said that I really did not know what I wanted but I knew something that I did NOT want; I did not want to be my mother’s physical care giver.  After more silence, I began to see some things that I did want:  I wanted to be the best daughter I could be without being a care giver, I wanted to show my gratitude for their love and caring, and I wanted to share good memories that were meaningful to me while I was growing up.  As this new thinking became more clear, it took off like a rocket ship after the call ended.  I began coaching myself around my new goals and what I wanted.   I started helping them with issues they could not handle on their own, like fighting with their insurance company to get a Power Chair approved for my mother, a complete closet makeover so she could reach her clothes more easily, etc.  I bought them the Presto Printing mailbox so they could get emails and photos from me and feel more connected to the family - for the elderly without computers this is a fabulous device!  I made them a scrapbook of memories and I verbalized many more “thank you’s” and”I love you’s.”

This Intrinsic Coaching® session had profound effect on my life because my mother died very suddenly 6 months later.   If I had not had this clarity of thinking, I would have been stuck with issues that were not as important.  My relationship with my parents was so much improved in those last months.  Not that it was perfect; my mother was very needy and being with her could be very irritating but I had learned to cope with the shortcomings and stick to my own goals of being the best daughter I could be on my own terms.  In addition, this was a good example of how the coaching goes on long after the 10 minute session is over.  I will forever be thankful to my Intrinsic Coach® and only hope that I can serve my own coachees by helping them increase their own intrinsic capacity which can make their lives better as well! 

Claudine Reilly, RN, MA, COHN-S, CHES, Certified Intrinsic Coach®
Wellness Manager
CVS Caremark

Simple to Explain

Recently, some of our coaches asked, "How can I explain Intrinsic Coaching™ in just a few words?" One coach, Tiffany Lidington (Phoenix City Gov), shared that she explains Intrinsic Coaching™ by describing its benefits:

"I personally feel the big benefits to Intrinsic Coaching™ are the conversations are shorter, you build from three central components that make conversations more productive and satisfying, and each step informs the next. To me, these are easy to explain and easy to comprehend."

To view an example of Tiffany's coaching, visit: http://totallycoached.com/assets/TiffanyLidington_Wk10_EconomyOfEffort.pdf

I > E > S

Here’s what I, E, and S awareness looks like when applied at work:

An older employee is assigned to a younger manager. From the beginning, he challenges her leadership and, ultimately, becomes disrespectful and sabotaging of her efforts. After months of this impasse, the manager dreads going to work and has trouble sleeping. She decides to become an Intrinsic Coach™ in the hope that she will be a better manager and lead more effectively, including through difficult situations such as the one she is now experiencing.

In the first two hours of coach development, she learns about I, E, and S thinking, how each one yields more resources and strategies to accomplish outcomes than the one that follows, and how to shift her thinking into the I dimension so a greater number of strategies become apparent and her resources toward accomplishment are maximized. She realizes that she leads her thinking relative to this employee from an S perspective and has an insight to the limitations this creates – that beginning thinking with “he should be different toward me” (S thinking) limits the options that can emerge toward a resolution. She realizes that thinking along the lines of S > E > I minimizes her resources and strategies toward accomplishing a good outcome.

She makes a decision to learn more about I > E > S so she can turn her thinking around and, in the process, turn around the situation.

Who we are.

How to begin a company blog? Perhaps with what’s important to us: Better results for, with, and through people, both in the workplace and beyond the organization’s walls. Perhaps why this is important to us: Accomplishing better results for, with, and through people is the same as accomplishing good.

Our company mission is to enable thinking better, together, to create healthier lives, healthier organizations, and a healthier world. It’s about accomplishing good things, and there’s a formula for good that guides us.

Totally Coached, Inc. is the founder of a new support methodology called Intrinsic Coaching®, which is based on the powerful formula, I > E > S. It guides our thinking; Intrinsic Coaching™ is “Thinking better. Together.™”

Accomplishing better results for, with, and through people, for the workplace and beyond, by way of thinking better, together, to accomplish goals, for healthier lives, healthier organizations, and a healthier world…how good is that?

Who promotes this? Intrinsic Coach® coaches.

While Intrinsic Coaching® is new, the science behind it is well established. It demonstrates that when it comes to thinking better, together, I > E > S is a fact; approaching what’s Intrinsic as being more important than what’s Extrinsic and approaching what’s Extrinsic as being more important than what’s Systemic gets better results for, with, and through people.

What does this mean? A lot. It means getting our priorities straight so thinking better, together, becomes possible. It means maximizing resources and increasing strategies for accomplishing results.

Intrinsic, Extrinsic, Systemic? In plain language:

Intrinsic is the realm of uniqueness and the unlimited variability of people.
Extrinsic is the realm of practicalities and the material and social world.
Systemic is the realm of ideas, as with rules, shoulds, and oughts.

Of course, there is more.

Who studies and applies this? Intrinsic Coach® coaches.

I > E > S is a basic science with measurable impact. Where does it come from? Quantum physics, quantum calculus, and Dr. Robert S. Hartman, the founder of the science of Axiology.

Axiology, the science, originated when the young man, Robert Hartman, witnessed organized evil and responded by launching a search to organize good. First, he had to find the answer to an important question: What is good?

From the young man who witnessed evil, Hartman went on to become a lawyer, then a judge, a philosopher, and, finally, a mathematical scientist devoted to the science of thinking so mathematically accurate that it’s the only science of human behavior resembling a natural science, like physics, rather than a social science, like psychology.

Hartman, nominated for the Nobel Prize for his work, launched the basic science of thinking on which the discipline of Intrinsic Coaching® is based.

Intrinsic Coaching® opens up and gives details to the intrinsic dimension of thinking, making the practice of I>E>S accessible, replicable, and natural in everyday life. What is the drive and spirit behind this? In part, the search by Christina Marshall, founder of Intrinsic Coaching®, for something simple that, if people could only know, would cause such a profound result that suffering that didn't need to be wouldn't be.

Given what we know of an interconnected universe, is it any wonder that quantum physics and quantum calculus should emerge as the supporting structure for a philosophy, then a science, and, now, a coaching methodology for good?

And that its application would be accessible, replicable, measurable, and benefit anyone, from clerk to CEO and from one part of the world to any other?

Let's make it real:

Have you ever been scolded for making a mistake? Did it make you feel stupid…embarrassed…like you were suddenly less than you were a moment before? Unfortunately, it’s happened to all of us.

Did it help? Did it make you more careful? Did it make you a better person? Of course not. It was behavior influenced by S > E > I and it isn’t what anyone wants; what's in charge is an idea that you have to be perfect (S) to “get it right” (E) and that “it” counts more than you (I). When S > E > I happens, you, a person with a lot to offer in that very moment, don’t count and aren’t figured into the equation of getting good results.

Think about it this way: Organizations run by S > E > I thinking severely diminish their resources and strategies for accomplishing good outcomes.

At the Steve Young Desert Classic fundraiser, a single contributor ($1.5 million) was to receive an award – a collage set behind glass with a beautifully polished dark wooden frame, around 2 1/2’ X 3’, not an insignificant size. A young man of 16 was asked to present the award and to hold it until it was time to present. Standing outside, waiting for the right time to enter the building, the 16 year old got distracted and the wooden frame hit the cement sidewalk. Hearing the thud, a representative of the recipient organization walked over to the young man, engaged him with eye contact, smiled, and said, “Hey...you’re scarin’ me.” She glanced at the award and went back to what she was doing. The you ng man then held the award more carefully by resting it on top of his sneakers.

A simple story about I > E > S. Can you see it?

And, it’s measurable.

Sincerely,

Christina Marshall, Founder, Totally Coached, Inc. & the Intrinsic Coaching® methodology